Upward 40 degree curved penis with Peyronie's disease, 22 year-old thinks sex is over and mentions suicide

I am 22 years old, i was messing around with a girl (not having sex) but, she got turned on and thrusted down on me and her pelvic bone hit on the end of my erect penis and it hurt momentarily and i thought nothing of it and went on with business. When we finally had sex the next week and i felt smaller but just shrugged it off to a bad day. Then it still seemed to stay smaller and it began to hurt.

After 2 months of it hurting when i got an erection and noticing a bend in the middle i scheduled an appointment with a Urologist and wasn't too worried because i figured no matter the cost it would be fixable and i have an upcoming deployment so i would have the money to pay for any reconstructive surgery (which i looked up and found out there is nothing to fix it!).

I went to the urologist appointment and he said real quick it was Peyronie's disease and explained what i injured, to take vitamin E and just it will heal but i'll lose length and girth and will be more liable to injure it further in the future then he abruptly left the room and that was it.

The past week since my visit i have been scouring the internet and becoming very depressed and have been contemplating suicide ( seen another 22 year old post similar which made me feel as i should ask for help also) i have a 40 degree upward bend, the top of my dick when flaccid has a hard feeling to it, sort of a elongated lump. I feel about 3/4 to an inch smaller and much thinner. Also weaker erection but, that has started since the diagnosis which i believe is more mental that actual physical condition. But just a quick prelude, when having sex with girls for the first time i've always been shy and would struggle to hold an erection the first time or two until i was comfortable. Had a good sexual relationship with the girl before and was almost always ready to go no problem, and then that ended and after finally having confidence in my sexual self, i hurt myself and feel i'm ruined forever.

Greetings young man,

No, you are not ruined forever.  You are only ruined if you allow yourself to be ruined.  But, you are too good for that; you have already proven that you are too good to allow Peyronie's disease to ruin you because you have already started to take steps to take care of yourself and to learn about this ugly problem.  You have already showed me in your email that you will be one of those who survives Peyronie's disease one way or the other.

However, it sure as hell is true you are deeply scarred; you are also confused about this mystery condition that came out of the blue to hit you when you weren't looking; you are also shocked at how little the medical profession has to offer you; and you are also upset at the cold and indifferent way the urologist treated you.  When you put all these powerful negative emotions together it can rattle your thinking and put you mentally and emotionally off-balance for just a little bit.  Because of this you have allowed yourself to think about suicide for maybe the first time in your life.   How do I know you are feeling this way?  I experienced something similar when I developed PD in 2002.  In fact the majority of the thousands of men I have communicated with about PD have felt just like you, and have thought many of those same black thoughts.  When you have a lousy medical experience with Peyronie's disease like you did – just like almost all men do – you can understandably have an almost identical emotional reaction – just like almost all men do. The difference is that only a few men are honest enough to talk about it.

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What you must do now is get busy to help yourself because you already know there is very little help for you from the medical side.  Most MDs are rather indifferent to the plight of the men they diagnose with Peyronie's disease.  In your reading and investigation of the PDI website I am sure you have come across the information by now that is repeated many times about 50% of men who develop PD getting over it  (spontaneous remission of Peyronie's disease) without any outside help at all. The message of the Peyronie's Disease Institute is that you always have the option of improving your odds of recovery by supporting your natural ability to heal PD like those lucky guys who do it naturally.   In fact, you could be one of those men and you just do not know it at this time.  There is much you can do to support the natural tendency of the body to always do the most it can to heal and recover to the best of  its ability.

You admit that you are a shy person.  Many times shyness comes from insecurity and lack of confidence that are rooted in past childhood issues.   There is nothing like being naked in front of someone for the first time to test your self-confidence and personal comfort.  Now that PD is an issue these insecurities and self-doubts are challenged even more.   This is a vitally important and complex subject that is central to the negative emotions that so many men feel when they first deal with Peyronie's disease.   I want to say many things to help you with this subject but my time and space is limited.  I strongly encourage you to get one of the books I wrote that I think will help you greatly, “Peyronie's Disease and Sex.”  There are so many helpful topics covered in this book that I am confident will help you think your way through your self-doubts.  Hopefully reading it will guide you to the other end of the problem at which time you will feel differently about having Peyronies disease.  If it does happen that you continue to have thoughts of suicide it is important that you talk to someone you trust for help and advice.

At the end of your email you said”…I hurt myself…”  Actually, that is only partially true.  The truth is that you put yourself in a dangerous situation and you allowed someone else to hurt your penis.  This happened because you did not know any better because you and 99% of the men in the world do not know about Peyronie's disease until they developed it.  If men do not know about PD, you can imagine that women are even more ignorant of it.  Therefore, it is likely that in your life you will never meet a woman who understands how dangerous it is for a man to be jammed and smashed down by her when he is erect.  You know; she never will.  Therefore, it is not up to you to deliver any lecture about PD and sex safety.  But, it is up to you to be smart; do not ever again allow a young lady to get that close to you when you are erect when she could duplicate that kind of injury. You must select a different range of safer sexual positions in which you are more in control of sexual activity, or at least learn to hold on to her waist so that you can limit how far back she can move to avoid a similar injury.

Please contact me again if you need help of any kind and I will do all that I can for you.  TRH 

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Sex hurts because my husband’s penis is crooked, can we get help?

Painful sexual intercourse of Peyronie’s disease can often be eliminated or reduced

Painful sexual intercourse when due to medical or psychological causes is medically known as dyspareunia (dis-pair-oo-nee-uh).  While this kind of pain is most often reported exclusively by women, it is also reported amongst men who have a curved penis due to Peyronie’s disease.

Assuming that your husband has a curved penis because of Peyronie’s disease, there are several different ways and areas of their life that a couple can work together to improve, and possibly eliminate, the pain they experience during sexual intercourse. While most people assume that the pain is the direct result of a curved penis, it has been shown it is necessary to consider the effects of the multiple factors that are unique to Peyronie’s disease and capable of affecting sexual function.  To help a situation in which intercourse is painful because of the effects of Peyronie’s disease it is usually necessary to use more than one treatment approach.

Do not make a hasty assumption that the cause of your pain during intercourse is a crooked penis; you might be right, but then again you might be only partially correct.

The topic of pain during intercourse is so common and so important to couples who deal with Peyronie’s disease that the Peyronie’s Disease Institute offers two valuable methods to learn how often eradicate the problem, or at least minimize it greatly.  The first is a special program in which our staff nurse will personally consult with and advise any woman who needs help in a program called “Woman to Woman.”  Women can speak to our nurse to ask questions of any sort that deal Peyronie’s disease, from the anatomy and physiology of sexual intercourse to suggestions for intercourse positions and lubrication options, as well as help dealing with sexual difficulties.  The second is a book written by Dr. Theodore Herazy titled, “Peyronie’s Disease and Sex,” that covers many of the diverse problems faced by couples who find intercourse painful or restricted by a curved penis or erectile dysfunction.

There are many different deformity patterns (bend, curve, indentation, rotation or twisting, hourglass and bottleneck, as well as combinations of these) plus different degrees of those penile distortions and curvatures that can contribute to different levels of pain experienced during intercourse. Even so, a bent penis is usually not the sole reason for painful intercourse for a couple dealing with Peyronie’s disease.  Just like the difficulty of putting a square peg in a round hole, a curved penis will certainly get someone’s attention and be the natural assumption for the cause of painful intercourse.

However, the amount of pain and even the absence of pain during intercourse that is due to a curved penis often presents a  surprisingly inconsistent and unexpected pattern; it is difficult to predict the failure or success of intercourse, or even if pain will or will not occur, based solely on the external appearance of the man’s penis.  It is not possible to say that a couple will experience pain or failure to complete entry for sexual intercourse only based on how much or where the penis is bent or distorted.

Women get help with painful sexual intercourse related to Peyronie's disease

The Peyronie’s Disease Institute nurse has advised and counseled many men and women who had not been able to engage in sexual intercourse because of pain for several years, even though the penile distortion involved sometimes is not great, less than 10 degrees.  Conversely, she has encountered a large number of happy couples, who in spite of having to deal with penile curvature approaching 90 degrees, were still able to engage in satisfying sexual intercourse without pain.

Based on these observations, there must be something else going on that explains why one couple will have problems with a small Peyronie’s curve and another couple will not have any apparent problems with a large Peyronie’s curve.

From our experience it is common for other seemingly small and less obvious factors to turn out to be the sole reason for pain during sex, or at least the primary contributor, rather than the more obvious curved penis. Nevertheless, to find a solution for painful intercourse that is part of the Peyronie’s experience it is important to consider all possible factors and not the just obvious.  Unless all the issues that contribute to painful sex are identified and addressed, pain will likely continue to be a problem, often getting worse over time since interpersonal problems tend to escalate.

The most common cause of pain during sexual intercourse is a simple lack of vaginal lubrication that normally is secreted during arousal to make penetration easier and reduce friction and irritation during coitus.  Some common reasons a woman would experience a lack of lubrication are:

Menopause – reduced progesterone and estrogen hormone production after age 50
causes many changes in the ability of the reproductive system to operate in a way that favors reproduction.  Thinning of the vaginal walls, less natural lubricant production and pain during sex are common signs of menopause.

Lack of foreplay – hurried sex does not allow for adequate time for natural secretions to be produced.

Disinterest or emotional issues about sex – a variety of past and current issues can be at play to reduce sexual interest in either partner

Vaginismus – an involuntary spasm or tightness of the muscles surrounding the vagina, especially at the opening, making penetration difficult, painful or impossible. This tightening and subsequent pain while attempting entry can have several possible causes: past sexual trauma or abuse, a history of discomfort with sexual intercourse, and at times no cause can be found. Psychological factors related to Peyronie’s disease are commonly found to be at the heart of vaginismus often develops because of anxiety regarding sexual intercourse, such as remembering the traumatic event that happened during intercourse that caused the Peyronie’s disease injury in the first place, the guilt and anxiety about causing his Peyronie’s disease, the anger about being in a relationship that is marred by a curved penis, the fear another accident might happen making his PD even worse.  Vaginismus treatment involves education and counseling for the couple, behavioral exercises, and vaginal dilation exercises using plastic dilators. This type of therapy should be done under the direction of a sex therapist or other health care provider experienced in this area of sexual dysfunction.

A wide range of emotional issues that are rooted in Peyronie’s disease result in pain during sex because they cause of variable degrees of vaginismus and reduced sexual lubrication:

Anger and frustration about being in a relationship without normal sex

Fear of making his Peyronie’s worse during sex with another accident

Fear that the Peyronie’s disease is contagious – and it is not – and could result in problems for the female partner

Fear that the deformed penis will injure the vagina

Guilt since she was one who caused sex accident

Low expectation to gain entry since penis does not look like it would be able to fit

If you are a woman experiencing pain during intercourse while also dealing with Peyronie’s disease, contact the PDI nurse via to get help identifying and eliminating all issues that might be involved.

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My husband has Peyronie’s disease, how can I help him?

How women can help men deal with Peyronies disease

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There is a wide range of unique problems that can develop based on the dynamics of special situations within a relationship, especially concerning sex. Even so, there unfortunately also tends to be a list of common problems and pitfalls that most couples must deal with in order to keep their relationship strong and working together well for his eventual recovery.  From this reason the Peyronie’s Disease Institute has a special program in which our staff nurse will consult with and advise any woman who needs help in a program called “Woman to Woman.”  Women can speak to our nurse to ask questions of any sort that deal Peyronie’s disease, from the anatomy, physiology and pathology of PD, to personal relations questions, as well as help in dealing with sexual difficulties.

There are many ways, obvious and not so obvious, a woman can help a man deal with his Peyronie’s disease on a personal basis, in addition to helping with those issues that threaten their life together as a social and sexual couple.  Here are a few ideas that will get you started in the right direction.

It is not just the man with the obvious physical problem that is affected, but Peyronie’s disease and women who deal these men on a daily basis are also distressed and are an integral part of any solution he might need. To really help him requires that his partner does her best to try to understand the strange and stressful thing he is going through with Peyronie’s disease, and forgive him if his behavior and personality have deteriorated under the weight of his burden. More than anything else, much of what is required to help him right now is in the form of emotional support and great acts of kindness by letting go of the hurt feelings that will probably arise.

If a woman really wants to help her man deal with his problem, and wants to protect the bonds of their family unit, she can:

  1. Make a special effort to understand and forgive his moodiness and embarrassment since he has been diagnosed with Peyronie’s disease.  Women commonly notice that a man who previously was confident and eager for sexual contact will suddenly refuse sexual activity, and even hide his body rather than exposing himself to his mate. These temperament changes are usually based on a powerful sense of low self-esteem and deep lack of self-confidence that arises from his lost sense of masculinity.  Many women comment that their husband’s personality has changed so much that he is like a different man.For many men this change is a reflection of how he thinks of himself since the most masculine part of his body has been so flawed that he thinks of it as being taken away from him. He might easily act out in fits of child-like anger.  It is valuable that his mate attempts to be as tolerant of these outbursts, just as she would a child; at these times he is functioning at very primitive and instinctive level of emotional development as a child would.Above all else, he will require more patience and understanding than ever before. This is not to say a man with PD should be given license to be abusive and use ugly behavior, but only that any tolerance that can be afforded to him should be used since it will help to prove to him that he is not being rejected by his mate.  As discussed below, fear of rejection and fear of loss are two of the primary driving forces that most deeply trouble the man with Peyronies.His thinking about the subject of PD is often overridden by his strong emotions, so do not count on him to be logical or mature about this subject.  Think of him as a scared child having a temper tantrum and you will not be too far off; treat him with that same compassion and forgiveness as you would a child when necessary.  You can help him deal with his Peyronie’s disease, but it will most especially help you to understand and deal with him effectively.
  2. Be prepared for him to be down on himself, and to not accept or believe you when you say that his Peyronie’s disease, curved penis and reduced sexual ability are something that you can learn to live with. Be prepared to be rejected when you say that you still love him in spite of his distorted penis.Many men cannot make themselves believe it is true no matter how many times they are told that their physical distortion does not matter, regardless of the sincerity and emotion that is used.  They see themselves as so pathetic and unworthy that they cannot believe any woman could accept them in their reduced state.  Men will push women away in anger when she only reaffirms her love and acceptance.  The more she insists she is not affected by his loss, the more aggravated and lost in denial he can become.  It makes for some very emotionally charged moments.Do not take his anger personally; it is delivered to you because you are standing in front of him, but is really a reflection of his despair and anger with himself.
  3. Over and over, in small and large ways, offer direct and indirect assurance he is still acceptable and attractive to you. His confidence and self-worth can easily be taken to at an all-time low because of the humiliating effects of Peyronie’s disease.  His reduced penis size, erectile dysfunction and penile curvature can cause a man to think less of himself, and he will assume you do the same.  While the physical change of his genitals can be shocking, do your best to respond to him in a way that is as positive and normal as before his Peyronie’s disease started.  The majority of men disbelieve that their spouse is willing to stand by  during his difficult time.  Calm repetition of your acceptance and love is your best ally.

In my work helping men who have Peyronie’s disease I frequently encounter those whose lives have been ruined not just by the emotional effects of a curved penis, but by the women who abandoned them.  Often these problems are avoidable if someone would explain to these women why their men behave in such a bad way, and how little it takes to not only help these men but also help the women to protect what is an otherwise good relationship and keep their families together.

In the case of the women who deal with Peyronie’s disease, trying to understand he is just a scared little boy who is behaving badly because he is scared of losing you.  Treating him with a little compassion can go a long way toward protecting your little boy and your relationship with him.

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Is there anything I can do to help my husband recover from Peyronie’s disease?

Any woman can help and support his effort to reduce Peyronies disease in several ways

There obvious and not so obvious, direct and indirect, ways a woman can help the man in her life to deal with his problems of Peyronie’s disease not only on a personal treatment basis, but also by supporting and assisting with those personal matters that threaten their relationship as a social and sexual couple.

It goes without saying that the obvious physical problems of a curved penis, reduced length and girth, and erectile dysfunction that are part of Peyronie’s disease directly affect the man who has this condition.  But the woman in a relationship with such a man is in a critical position because of their personal relationship to help him deal with the many negative aspects of Peyronie’s disease, and so can provide an integral part of any solution he might need.  Her role begins by understanding and accepting that he is going through a strange and stressful event for which no man is ever prepared.  Throughout a woman’s life, even before her teen years, she is talked to and prepared for changes in her reproductive system; she discusses these events that affect her genital area with her mother and perhaps her sisters and girlfriends who also experience these changes; she even goes to a special kind of doctor, a gynecologist, who specializes just in the female reproductive system; each month she is reminded that her pelvic region does unusual things; if she becomes pregnant she soon overcomes her modesty and privacy about this area of her body.  A man does not ever experience anything remotely like that.  His genitals are his prized masculine region, but they are private.  For the most part his reproductive area is uneventful and is not discussed much – except if he develops Peyronie’s disease.

For these reasons he has been completely unprepared by his past experiences to deal with  suddenly learning that there is a problem he has never heard of before, called Peyronie’s disease, that jeopardizes his ability to engage in sexual intercourse and denies him the act that defines manhood to him.   For a man Peyronie’s disease is perhaps not so much experienced as a health problem in which fibrous plaque material develops internally within the penis, but more so it is felt to be a loss of what makes him a man.  The woman who must deal with her man’s Peyronies problem must see this condition as a great emotional issue for him and be prepared to forgive him if his temperament and mood suffers while he comes to grips with his curved penis that no longer works as it once did.

He will benefit greatly from his mate’s emotional support and patience, and her ability to forgive him while he wrestles with the fears that are connected to Peyronie’s disease. Probably his biggest fear is the losing you because of his reduced sexual ability; no longer being able to provide you the pleasure of sexual intercourse, that you will leave him for someone else. He fears that he will never experience regain the pleasure of traditional sexual satisfaction. He fears that if you do leave him he will never be able to develop a relationship with another woman, and he will be alone in life. He fears being pitied and ridiculed as the man with the deformed and shrunken penis. He fears feeling like less of a man.  It is not really the physical aspects of Peyronie’s disease that drives a man into despair, it is being unprepared for the emotional isolation he feels.  More than ever he needs you but he feels ashamed and embarrassed to be with you, adding to the torment he feels.

From the combination of physical, emotional and sexual problems related to Peyronie’s disease comes a list of common problems and pitfalls that happen to most couples. Since the man with Peyronie’s disease will often shut down emotionally and a state of denial, totally ignoring his problem, the burden to actively learn about and reach out for help will fall to the woman in that relationship. From this reason the Peyronie’s Disease Institute has developed  a special program in which our staff nurse can consult with and advise a woman who needs help dealing with any aspect of Peyronie’s disease.  During a friendly phone call our nurse will answer questions of any sort about Peyronie’s disease (male and female anatomy, sexual difficulties, personal relationship problems, treatment options, or anything else that is on her mind).

Here are a few ideas to consider to help him deal with his penile problems and to protect the bonds of your family:

  1. Continue your usual sex life if at all possible, limiting traditional intercourse only to the extent that his curved penis prevents it.  In case you believe that you cannot any longer engage in intercourse, please know that there are many techniques and ideas that can help you allow entry and increase your ability for traditional sexual intercourse. Few couples are as limited in their ability to engage in intercourse as they assume; usually all they need are some basic ideas and simple instruction. This is such an important topic; please refer to my second book that covers many aspects of this topic at great detail and length, “Peyronie’s Disease and Sex.”
  2. An important aspect of Alternative Medicine treatment of PD is the PDI diet to assist recovery from Peyronies.   This subject is covered in detail in chapter 5 of “Peyronie’s Disease Handbook.”  You can assist his recovery greatly if you can coach him through these dietary ideas, and make it easier to follow if you incorporate these principles into your lifestyle for the time being.
  3. Moral support at this time is crucial.  You will help him, and help yourself as well, if you can offer him encouragement and praise during these rough times.  You will prove your loyalty and earn his admiration and respect when you demonstrate you are not a fair weather friend.  Men commonly refer to their time dealing with Peyronie’s disease as the lowest point of their lives, feeling alone and depressed, offering them all the excuse needed to behave badly.  Just because a man is acting like a jerk does not mean he does not know he is acting like a jerk; he knows his behavior is bad; he just does not care to control his primitive emotions of the moment. This is the time a man needs a friend to offer support and a trusting heart.  Even though he might push you away out of embarrassment and self-consciousness for his reduced physical state, he will soon recognize your acts of steadfast friendship and tolerance as proof you are not going to reject him.  Once he is confident you are not going to run away because of his sexual problems, your man will come around to his old self (and probably better) because you will have proven your love for him to an even greater level than he knew before.  This is how your relationship will grow under the adversity of Peyronie’s disease, by showing your strength and loyalty to him no matter what happens.
  4. Be tolerant and understanding about his reduced sexual interest and flawed sexual ability.  Both of you are afraid of what will happen in the future regarding your sex life together.  The way to make our fears become a reality is to place a lot of pressure on his sexual performance.  Easy does it.  As discussed at length in “Peyronie’s Disease and Sex,” we find that most couples can actually engage in sexual intercourse for a far longer time than they imagine, but stop only because the do not know how to solve get around some of the difficulties of gaining entry with a bent penis; this book explains how to be successful with sex using a curved penis than you could imagine.  In the early stages of Peyronies it is most valuable to continue traditional intercourse for as long as possible.  It is not necessary to stop sexual activity as long as no pain occurs for either partner.  Engaging in sexual activity is good for the physical and emotional health of both partners, as well as beneficial for your personal relationship.  Sex can be the all-important emotional glue that keeps you together, so use sex liberally since PD is really all about sex when you think about it.  If you reduce sexual activity at this time it will only confirm his worse fear that you are no longer interested in him as a sexual person. If traditional sexual intercourse turns out to not be possible due to his curved penis it is necessary to explore, expand and use a greater variety non-intercourse sexual activities and techniques, with the hands, lips and whatever else is mutually agreeable to you as a couple.  Your previous thinking and attitude about sexual activity might have to change to satisfy your unfulfilled physical needs for intimacy.  With an open and honest dialogue you can work these things out.  Again, your helpful and willing approach to sexual problem solving and cooperation only proves your place in his heart as the best possible partner he can have.

Many of the conflicts and stresses a couple goes through when Peyronie’s disease enters their lives are avoidable.  A little understanding, a few suggestions about altered sex techniques, the man having the woman’s side explained to him, the woman having the man’s side explained to her, reading the positive and informative books that are available from the Peyronie’s Disease Institute, and starting an aggressive Alternative Medicine treatment plan to increase his ability to heal and repair the Peyronies plaque can do wonders to reduce stress and misunderstanding between people dealing with Peyronie’s disease.

If the woman would keep in mind that her man with Peyronie’s disease is very much like a scared little boy who is behaving badly because he is scared of losing you, and treat him accordingly, things would improve greatly. With understanding, love and a little compassion you can help that little boy know you are not going to leave him and you will protect your relationship with him.

What is the best way to take Male X Booster sex stimulant?

When taking the Male X  Booster sexual stimulant every other day do you need to add vitamin E to your diet?   Can you take Male X Booster once daily?   Thank you.

Greetings,

No, as far as improving sexual function is concerned, you do not need to take vitamin E if you are taking Male X Booster.  But you would want to take vitamin E as an important part of your Peyronie's treatment plan.   Yes, you can take Male X Booster once daily. 

There are many reasons why someone with Peyronie’s disease will develop some level of a sex problem, sooner or later.  The pain and distortion associated with Peyronies disease are not the only factors that can start sexual problems.  Reduced rigidity caused by the presence of the Peyronies plaque, feeling self-conscious about the loss of length and circumference that come with PD, fear of re-injury during intercourse, frustration of attempting intercourse with a bent or hinged penis – all these can and do cause real sexual challenges for the couple who deals with Peyronie's disease.  

For those men who simply need a little assistance with the quality of their erection, PDI has a collected a great selection of herbal formulas that can do the job nicely. Each has been found over time to work better than most on the market.  Not all of them work for everyone – that would be asking too much.  Based on many years of experience working with PD couples, this group of sex enhancers has proven to address the needs of almost all men.  Male X Booster is one of those great sex stimulants we work with.

For Male X Booster you begin by taking the dosage as provided on the label.   If you can develop good improvement with your sexual performance by taking daily, then by all means take it that way.  Some men take slightly more than that in order to see good results.  You want to experiment a bit to learn with any of these sex stimulants to see what works best for you.   Not everyone will respond the same way as you do, so learn what works best based on your needs.  

All you have to do is be patient with yourself and your partner, experiment to discover which herbal formula works best for you, and follow the instructions given below

  1. Use Stimulin as the first step in developing your sex enhancement plan.  This is a source of nitric oxide and is essential in developing and improving sexual performance.
    1. Use it, as instructed, for about 2-3 weeks, and see how much it helps.  It might not be necessary to use any other product to help your situation.
    2. If you are not satisfied after using Stimulin by itself, then continue with Stimulin and add an herbal sex enhancer (Male X Booster, ITI Man, etc.) you will find on the PDI website.
  2. If possible, get a few different products.  Experiment to discover the one that works best for you.
  3. Use each herbal sex enhancer as instructed.  Each has different instructions, because each has a different purpose, a different formula, and different strengths.
  4. Give up your anger, embarrassment and feelings of inferiority related to PD.  If you cannot do this, get Dr. Herazy’s book, “Peyronie’s Disease and Sex.”  If you still have a problem, call him for assistance; he is an expert in this area.  
  5. Be patient with her, and be patient with yourself.  This is a big problem to work through, and you should not make it worse for each other by being insensitive or unreasonable.

                       

Can masturbation cause Peyronie’s disease?

Dr. Herazy, I know you are a busy man, but if you can recommend something specifically for me, then I would greatly appreciate it to boost my confidence. I struggle with a very black depression from my Peyronie's. Here is my status: when not erect my penis is just fine/when about 30% erect I have the beginning of an hour glass shape/when about 70% erect the curve is on the left side/when fully erect it hangs to the left and has a curve on the left side. Also, question: can masturbation cause this to have happened? Thank You

Greetings,

If you are like most men, I believe the primary reason you are so depressed is that you do not realize how much you can actually do to help yourself recover from PD.  A large part of your emotional state is due to feeling helpless and depressed, and these start with not understanding Peyronie's disease.  Therefore, once you begin to learn more about the problem you will feel less scared and alone, as many men do with PD.  Once you begin to actually do something to improve your physical condition you will feel empowered and in control of you situation.

There are three things you can do right now to help yourself:
1.  Go to the PDI website to the page about using EFT for distressing emotional states.  I have worked with many PD men using this technique and the results are often rapid and gratifying. Contact me directly for an EFT session when you are ready to feel better. 
2.  Get my book, "Peyronie's Disease and Sex" to develop a better understanding of yourself and how women relate to your condition.  Men usually make their situation worse by assuming that women will automatically reject a man who has PD; this is often not the case when the man knows how to effectively manage his sexual problems.  This book can help you in this area.   
3.  Get started on the most aggressive Peyronies treatment plan you can sustain for a few months to hopefully begin to make positive changes in your physical condition.   As part of your PD education you should read, "Peyronie's Disease Handbook."  

Masturbation, by itself, will not cause injury that can lead to Peyronie's disease.  However, very rough or physically abusive masturbation practices can cause injury to the tunica albuginea that leads to PD.   All masturbation to be safe should be as gentle and well lubricated as sexual intercourse.   TRH 


Peyronie’s Disease and Sex Safety Concerns

Safety with a curved penis

Couples are always concerned if they can safely engage in sexual activity, especially during the early phase of Peyronie’s disease treatment.

The short answer is, YES.   Sex is good on may levels for you as individual people and as a couple, so go for it. You can and should engage in as much sexual activity you are comfortable with and desire, during treatment and in spite of your Peyronie’s disease.

The longer answer is, YES, but you must be careful and cautious in exactly how and what you do during sex.   Careful, gentle, non-stressful sex is certainly the safe and smart goal fore care of the erection. As the owner of the Peyronie's curved penis, it is important to stay in control of yourself, and your partner should do the same, without becoming so carried away that you injure yourself further.  You are the only one who is going to suffer further if you bend or jamb yourself during sex, so it is your ultimate responsibility to be careful.

If any sexual activity or position causes ANY amount of pain or distress to either of you, it should be stopped.  Pain is your signal that something is wrong.  Do not do anything further to even slightly injure your penis while you are spending all this time, effort and money trying to get well.   Figure out other ways to enjoy sex without generating a pain response, and you will do fine.

Slow and careful does not mean dull.  It should mean more passionate sex, taking more time doing what feels good, all based on better communication between the two of you.

Please make sure that you do not attempt sexual entry too early, if she is too dry or otherwise unprepared for intercourse.  If you usually do not need to use any external lubrication (water-based lubricant like K-Y jelly), it is simply a smart thing to start using it now. This is a vital step to prevent further injury, since a second injury could be catastrophic.

Do not use positions and techniques in which the man does not control movement and activity.  Rear-entry sex positions are usually safer to use since they allow the man more control, but caution is still needed.

"Peyronie's Disease and Sex"

The topic of sex in relation to Peyronie’s disease is immense.  When I began writing my first PD book, I intended to combine the topics of Peyronie’s disease treatment and sex all in one book.  When it became apparent how large this sex topic is, I simply decided a separate book would have to be written; it eventually became “Peyronies Disease and Sex.”

Any questions about sex and Peyronie’s disease?   Send them along at the heading on the right column, “Ask Dr. Herazy…”

Nine Causes of Pain in the Penis

Peyronie's disease not the only cause of penis pain

Peyronie’s disease often causes pain during erection because the shortened scar tissue located in the tunica albuginea cannot lengthen, and causes pain.  Occasionally, men will also report penis pain when erect and non-erect; some men will even report never having pain during erection but only when non-erect or flaccid.

Since pain is often a part of the Peyronie’s disease landscape, let us take a closer look at penis pain that occurs only during sexual activity, with the most common causes being listed first. .

Peyronie’s disease is a common explanation when men have sexual pain, but it is not the only one. See your doctor for an official diagnosis, but here are some other culprits.

Poor sexual technique and insufficient foreplay to cause adequate sexual lubrication.  Rushing into genital penetration before the female partner is adequately prepared sexually can be painful due to the vagina being dry and too contracted.  Use of adequate sexual lubrication can be extremely helpful.

Prostatitis is an inflammation or infection of the prostate gland that can cause swelling and pain in the area behind your penis (just below your bladder), pain or burning when urinating, and painful ejaculation.

Genital herpes can cause a sore on the penis that results in very painful sex.  In addition to avoiding sexual contact with a partner during an outbreak because these sores are extremely infectious, part of the therapy for herpes is to refrain from sex in any case.

Urinary tract infections anywhere from the bladder to the tip of the urethra (urinary tube that runs the length of the penis to pass urine out of the body).  This needs to be treated rapidly, because they can spread and become very serious.

Yeast infections of any part of the urinary tract are often accompanied by itching or burning at the tip of the penis.

Allergies and dermatitis caused by sensitivity to chemicals or soaps can result in inflammation of the skin on the penis, especially for those men who are uncircumcised.

Psoriasis of is a non-infectious chronic skin condition that results in scaly, itchy and painful red patches.  These are usually treated with low-dose steroid creams. When psoriasis of the penis develops, sexual contact can be painful.

Phimosis is a condition of the penis in which the foreskin, also called the prepuce, is too tight to be completely retracted over the head of the penis.  Movement of this tight skin during sexual activity can be very painful.

Paraphimosis is a similar condition in which the tight foreskin becomes stuck behind the head of the penis.  Low grade infections can develop, and reduced blood flow to the area can occur, either or both of which are very painful.

Any pain that develops during sex should be investigated by a medical doctor.

For a more in-depth discussion about matters of penis pain, and the role of Peyronie’s disease in sexual activity, please refer to my book, “Peyronie’s Disease & Sex”

Peyronie’s Syndrome is more than a curved penis

Peyronie's disease defies classification

Technically, Peyronie’s syndrome is not the correct way to refer to Peyronie’s disease.  Actually, calling it Peyronie’s disease is not correct, either, but more on that later.

First, the term Peyronies syndrome.   A syndrome refers to a group of several essential and clearly recognizable clinical signs, symptoms and characteristics of a health problem that often occur in association or together.  In the situation in which a syndrome occurs, the presence of one feature, sign or symptom would alert a doctor to the possibility a particular syndrome was present, so he/she would automatically look for other features, signs and symptoms that normally occur with it.  If those additional findings are detected, then  a diagnosis of that syndrome could be made.

Peyronie’s syndrome is not a valid term because the characteristic Peyronies symptoms are actually too few, and they do not usually form a tightly bound set of features that suggest this particular health problem. The few symptoms and signs associated with PD are actually vague by usual medical standards. Since there are typically only three such standard features or clues associated with Peyronie’s disease  (penis pain, distorted or curved penis, and the common Peyronie’s plaque or scar), this set of presenting characteristics is not large enough or strongly suggestive of the condition, hence syndrome is not a good term to use.

Peyronie’s syndrome is not a disease, either

Then we come to the term Peyronie’s disease, which is not all that accurate either.  A disease refers to any condition that causes extreme pain, significant organ or system dysfunction, social problems, and even death, and is usually acquired through direct or indirect transmission or communication from one person to another.  Of course, there are many definitions and ways of looking at what constitutes a disease, but that is generally acceptable in most cases.

Since Peyronie’s disease seldom causes extreme pain, and sometimes no pain at all, it does not fulfill that requirement.   Since the genitourinary system of which the penis is only a part continues to function, and the penis continues to carry urine and oftentimes is still capable to function sexually, it does not fulfill the requirement of loss of function.  While having a bent penis plays havoc with the man who has it, and the woman or women he is sexually active, it does not affect society as a whole, the way actual diseases like the flu or measles, syphilis, tuberculosis or alcoholism do.  Peyronie’s disease is not fatal, except to some couple’s sex life, so it also does not fulfill that part of the requirement.  And lastly, this problem is not communicated or transmitted from one person to the next; you cannot catch Peyronies.

When referring to Peyronie’s disease it is more accurate and fair to use other terms like “condition,” or the more descriptive terms that follow in this list.  These are more clinically accurate names that have been collected and were taken from the PDI website:

  1. Indurato penis plastica
  2. Chronic cavernositis
  3. Fibrous sclerosis of the penis
  4. Fibrous cavernositis
  5. Fibrous plaques of the penis
  6. Penile fibrosis
  7. Penile fibromatosis
  8. Penile induration

This list of descriptive terms was taken from the PDI website where the basics of Peyronie’s disease are discussed at length.  If you wish to learn more about this condition, called Peyronie’s disease, please review this additional information.  But whatever you do, do not call it Peyronie’s syndrome, OK?

Peyronie’s Disease and How to Avoid Infidelity

Marital stress caused by Peyronie's disease

If having Peyronie’s disease was not stressful enough on a relationship, it has been reported by The New York Times that more men and women than ever are cheating on each other.

This blog article does not intend to plant the seeds of anxiety, doubt, or suspicion about an unfaithful mate, because these thoughts have likely occurred within the first hour for any every man who learns his curved penis is caused by Peyronies disease.  This blog post is offered to address that common fear and anxiety, and offer advice for what you can do to increase your ability to keep your relationship solid and strong.  So read on, since this is additional reason for men with a bent penis to be interested in improving their romantic talents and sexual skills.    In a recent newspaper article, The New York Times commented that University of Washington researchers discovered more men and women are cheating today than in the past.  What is termed the lifetime rate of infidelity is greater for both sexes; for men over 60 infidelity is now at 28 percent, up from 21 percent. The frequency of infidelity has tripled for women, with infidelity now at 15 percent.

Apparently it is the temptation offered by the modern age, in the form of cell phones, e-mail communication and instant text messaging that allow people, including women who work at home, to create intimate relationships with those who are not their traditional partners.   Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love and the Sensual Years, believes women are more inclined to wander and experiment with others is because of growing independence and ease of maintaining private communication with different people.  Dr. Schwartz notes that if a person was sexually active while single or unattached, that person is more likely to be dissatisfied and roam if their current relationship develops problems.

“If things aren’t great, they are more open to reliving some of the sexual passion and high points of their single days,” Schwartz says.

At what point in a relationship do things become not great?  “[People] get bored or feel like, ‘Is this all there is?’ ” Schwartz says. “[The reasons] for men and women are the same: They need reassurance and they’re feeling unappreciated.”   So, notice here that Dr. Schwartz is not replying that a woman becomes unfaithful because she is not receiving adequate sexual activity, or that she is unhappy with the number of orgasms or the size of his penis.  This is an extremely important point.  It has been my observation that men with Peyronie’s disease develop relationship problems more because of how they behave on the emotional relationship or social level, than on the sexual physical level.

Dissatisfaction in a romantic relationship usually revolves around something any man with Peyronie’s disease can always provide, in spite of a bent penis – he can always offer her respect, reassurance and appreciation.  Keep in mind that the real dissatisfaction in a romantic relationship is often more about emotional issues than physical issues.  Even when the woman expresses sexual dissatisfaction with her mate, they come to the surface only because of deeper and larger problems that are emotional in nature.  Men tend to think of a relationship more so from the purely physical aspect, while women tend to think of a relationship more so from the purely emotional aspect.  This is the wonderful, and problematic, difference between the sexes.

A man with the bent penis of Peyronie’s disease thinks he has a problem in his relationship because of the physical problems with sex.  This is often not true.  A man would think this way, while a woman doe not.  For a woman the real issues of highest importance are the critical personal human issues of respect, reassurance, appreciation, and an emotional bond that is strong and frequently satisfied.  I have seen that if a woman is emotionally satisfied, she is far, far more likely to willingly accept her mates reduced physical limitations.

I spend a great amount of time discussing all phases and aspects of this exact issue that arises in Peyronie’s disease between a man and a woman in my book, “Peyronie’s Disease & Sex.”  This book has saved many marriages and relationships over the years.  I urge you to read it if you are having relationship problems because of your Peyronies.

Peyronie’s disease and romance

On a daily basis, with so many interferences and stresses that separate a couple, romance is difficult to maintain.  However, there many easy and fun things any man with Peyronie’s disease can do, no matter how badly his penis curvature interferes with usual sexual activity.   These are five positive and pleasant steps you can take, even if you cannot engage in intercourse, that will assist you greatly to keep her interested and close to you:

1. Spend more time together. A good relationship requires time together and alone with that special person.  Give her the attention she craves.  Go out with her to do things that you previously avoided.  Go grocery shopping together.  Tag along when she does a few errands, or to her work functions you usually avoid. Help her with some chores that you can share together.  Be a friend to her in ways that you did not see before.  Dr. Schwartz advises, “You can’t do it all, but even if you’re there sometimes, it will remind her that she’s part of a great couple instead of an individual out there on her own.

2. Keep your relationship fresh and fun. See where you have fallen into a level of dullness in your lives, and make some changes.  While you might simply see a schedule, she might see a rut.  Eating at the same restaurant, doing the same things each evening after work, being far too predictable, or not adding variety to your lives together can take the edge off a relationship.  Even sex can become part of that predictable quality that becomes less fun and boring.  Suggest a “nooner,” then meet her back at the apartment for lunch in bed. “Rent an erotic movie, go shopping for a sex toy, buy her a sexy teddy,” Schwartz suggests. “Make her believe no one could be as romantic or as much fun as you are.”  With Peyronie’s disease putting limits on your sexual activity, it is important that you compensate by improving those elements of your personal and romantic relationship that can be improved, no matter how far your penis is curved.

3. Deal with all that sudden anger. Men with Peyronie’s disease are notorious for their anger.  I will write a blog post about this problem soon, but for now let’s just agree that your temper lately has gotten out of control far too often and far too extreme.  Do not use anger as a way to avoid the problems of Peyronie’s disease.  Take the issues and problems you now face, and discuss them directly with her because she needs to know what is going on with you – your fears, your embarrassment, your feelings about your masculinity, your insecurity about your relationship with her, all of it.  Many men cannot talk about these things, so they explode.  ”Anger is like a termite—you don’t see it, but it’s eating the walls and the structure of the house you’re living in,” Dr. Schwartz says. “The house is the relationship, and if you don’t handle it, the termites will ultimately destroy that bond which keeps someone loyal.”   You did not ask to have Peyronie’s disease, but it is your decision and your ultimate fault if you allow your anger to erode your relationship.

4. Learn how to use time. Dr. Schwartz advises that time can be used to diffuse and calm a tense situation.  “What you don’t want to do is have a fight when you’re mad. Say, ‘Look, you’re upset, I’m upset, let’s meet tomorrow at breakfast and talk about this. I’m not in the best shape to deal with it right now.’ ” Talk about your problems, sure, but only do so when you are levelheaded and in control of yourself.  If you are not, the chance is good that you will only make things worse.  Use time to work in your favor to solve your relationship problems.

5.  Create, or take advantage of, romantic moments. Even though it can be extremely corny and uncomfortable for a man, let’s just assume that all women really enjoy those Hallmark moments:  sitting by the fireplace, reading a book together, washing her hair or doing her nails, sending her an email that tells her in simple language how much you love her, or just holding hands while you walk.  Women think of these small things as great foreplay, and that is why they appreciate it when a man holds open a door, or takes care of her in small but important ways.  Dr. Schwartz says, “The less [of these moments] you have, the more she’s thinking how it used to be, or how nice it would be to have a man offering to fly her to a cabin in the woods.”  Make sure you are the one she is fantasizing about, by creating foreplay with simple acts of consideration, reassurance that you value her, and appreciation for who she is and what she does.   “You don’t have to do it all the time, but if you can’t remember the last time you did any of this, it’s way too long,” Schwartz says.

Even if you do not have Peyronie’s disease, these things will improve and deepen your relationship.  But if you have Peyronie’s disease these things become all the more important.  You must do all that you can to support and strengthen your relationship with her, now that one element of your physical ability to satisfy her is diminished.

Peyronie’s disease does not destroy a relationship; it is allowed to die when the man who has PD does not understand what motivates his woman.  Wise up.

Ladies Peyronies Forum – Women only!

Peyronie's Disease Forum for Women Serves Useful Purpose

Women need a Peyronie's forum for their special needs and issues.

While no one can doubt that the man who has Peyronies suffers in many ways with this problem, the women who love and live with these men suffer greatly in their own way.  Every woman touched by Peyronie's disease suffers not less because hers' is an indirect involvement, but perhaps more because of the acute frustration and helplessness of being unable to do anything to comfort her man during his times of distress.

Many of the emails I receive each day come from the women who are just as confused, frustrated, and angry about all the same issues that each man experiences in trying to deal with PD – with a few added issues.

Just as the man who first learns he has Peyronies, the woman must also attempt to grasp the answers to the basic questions that commonly arise at this time:

  1. This condition I have never heard of before – Peyronie’s disease – just what is it, and what do we do to get rid of it?
  2. Is it life threatening?
  3. What do you mean, there is no known cause or Peyronies cure?
  4. In the early part of the 21st century, when even cancers are being cured, how is it possible that science has no help for this problem?
  5. Could it be that we have talked to a doctor who is lazy or incompetent: should we talk to someone else?
  6. Would we get better answers, and help, if we spent more money and went to a higher level specialist?
  7. How could this problem affect up to 9% of the male population, but I have never heard of it before?
  8. What do you mean, you do not know if it is going to get better or worse?

On and on the questions pour out, trying to make sense of a terrible situation.  But there are other questions that a woman must naturally ask in the privacy of her own self:

  1. I am sorry that he got injured during intercourse.  He knows I did not do it on purpose.  I feel so guilty when I see him suffering.  Is he holding all this against me?
  2. What about my sexual needs; what am I going to do now?
  3. I didn’t do anything wrong, why am I suffering too?
  4. Why is he being so quiet and secretive about this; why won’t he talk to me about this problem?  Doesn’t he realize It is affecting me, too?
  5. What is going on with him?  He is getting so moody and irritable that I am afraid to talk to him sometimes.
  6. I feel like there is a brick wall around him, and he is a hundred miles away.  Why won’t he talk to me?

Of course, there are all the sexual problems and sexual discussions that are so unique between couples.  These too, are a part of the problems associated with Peyronie’s disease treatment– sometimes minor and manageable, and sometimes so major that a couple can not sustain themselves together.  In these cases where I counsel couples, I find that most all of the time each couple has a problem communicating on a much deeper level necessary to truly understand each other to the degree needed in this time of special need.

Throughout all this time, during discussion and lack of discussion, the woman suffers in her own unique way.  There are no easy answers to any of this, but it is necessary that a woman be able to communicate with someone, express her fears and her needs, and learn she is not alone.  This section of the Peyronie’s Disease Treatment forum blog is intended for this purpose.

Please feel free to ask questions, post comments and replies to each other, so you may feel this is a place of understanding and comfort for you.