Peyronie’s disease treatment inspiration

Just the other day I ran into this exciting quote that meant a lot to me.  I can only hope it will inspire you to feel more focused and confident as you conduct your Peyronie's disease treatment; to gather your inner strength to do more to help yourself along during the repeated trials and long days you spend working for your personal Peyronies cure.

"At the moment of commitment, the universe conspires to assist you."
Jean-Paul Sartre

I have seen this is in action in my life.  I have noticed many times, usually in great despair, that when I finally make up my mind about something – I finally no longer resist, but deeply and completely commit myself  – then suddenly the situation changes.  Problems reveal solutions.  Difficult people become cooperative.  I feel my determination and strength return.  Mountains of objections and problems become transparent to reveal the situation in such a different way that answers and success are finally in view.

Of course, all of this applies to Peyronie's disease treatment in more ways than you can imagine.  If you find that you are more negative than you can stand, and you cannot think clearly any longer about the dark place you are in, send me a comment here.  Let's work on it together.   TRH

Peyronie’s Syndrome is more than a curved penis

Peyronie's disease defies classification

Technically, Peyronie’s syndrome is not the correct way to refer to Peyronie’s disease.  Actually, calling it Peyronie’s disease is not correct, either, but more on that later.

First, the term Peyronies syndrome.   A syndrome refers to a group of several essential and clearly recognizable clinical signs, symptoms and characteristics of a health problem that often occur in association or together.  In the situation in which a syndrome occurs, the presence of one feature, sign or symptom would alert a doctor to the possibility a particular syndrome was present, so he/she would automatically look for other features, signs and symptoms that normally occur with it.  If those additional findings are detected, then  a diagnosis of that syndrome could be made.

Peyronie’s syndrome is not a valid term because the characteristic Peyronies symptoms are actually too few, and they do not usually form a tightly bound set of features that suggest this particular health problem. The few symptoms and signs associated with PD are actually vague by usual medical standards. Since there are typically only three such standard features or clues associated with Peyronie’s disease  (penis pain, distorted or curved penis, and the common Peyronie’s plaque or scar), this set of presenting characteristics is not large enough or strongly suggestive of the condition, hence syndrome is not a good term to use.

Peyronie’s syndrome is not a disease, either

Then we come to the term Peyronie’s disease, which is not all that accurate either.  A disease refers to any condition that causes extreme pain, significant organ or system dysfunction, social problems, and even death, and is usually acquired through direct or indirect transmission or communication from one person to another.  Of course, there are many definitions and ways of looking at what constitutes a disease, but that is generally acceptable in most cases.

Since Peyronie’s disease seldom causes extreme pain, and sometimes no pain at all, it does not fulfill that requirement.   Since the genitourinary system of which the penis is only a part continues to function, and the penis continues to carry urine and oftentimes is still capable to function sexually, it does not fulfill the requirement of loss of function.  While having a bent penis plays havoc with the man who has it, and the woman or women he is sexually active, it does not affect society as a whole, the way actual diseases like the flu or measles, syphilis, tuberculosis or alcoholism do.  Peyronie’s disease is not fatal, except to some couple’s sex life, so it also does not fulfill that part of the requirement.  And lastly, this problem is not communicated or transmitted from one person to the next; you cannot catch Peyronies.

When referring to Peyronie’s disease it is more accurate and fair to use other terms like “condition,” or the more descriptive terms that follow in this list.  These are more clinically accurate names that have been collected and were taken from the PDI website:

  1. Indurato penis plastica
  2. Chronic cavernositis
  3. Fibrous sclerosis of the penis
  4. Fibrous cavernositis
  5. Fibrous plaques of the penis
  6. Penile fibrosis
  7. Penile fibromatosis
  8. Penile induration

This list of descriptive terms was taken from the PDI website where the basics of Peyronie’s disease are discussed at length.  If you wish to learn more about this condition, called Peyronie’s disease, please review this additional information.  But whatever you do, do not call it Peyronie’s syndrome, OK?

Peyronie’s disease and women

Peyronie's disease affects more than one person at a time

Any woman who lives with a man who has Peyronie’s disease knows that her life is affected – drastically and to the core.

Shortly after starting Peyronie’s Disease Institute in 2002 I noticed an interesting phenomenon that was very much a surprise to me.  Initially, I never imagined I would deal with women in relation to any direct aspect of Peyronie's disease, even though I knew that women are greatly and adversely affected by it in so many ways.  Knowing how my own wife had to struggle with my initial bad behavior and personal weakness that was brought to the surface by Peyronies, I knew full well how a woman’s life could be stressed deeply in this way.  But, yet, I initially thought that women would stay in the background in regard to designing a Peyronie's treatment plan and dealing with the many questions that come up during actual therapy.  I thought it would be rare that I would come into contact with these ladies.  How wrong I was.

Consistently, around 5-15% of orders placed for various Peyronie’s treatment products are placed by a woman.  As I began to offer online answers to Peyronies questions, I soon found that about 5-10% of first-time emails asking basic questions or ordering information was being sent by women. This is the way it has started, and continues to today.

Probably the best you can do is arrange for a consultation, woman-to-woman with the Peyronies nurse.

It is my first impression that there were a few possible reasons for the large percent of women who communicate with me about a totally male health problem:

  1. The man with Peyronie’s disease does not have access to, or does not know how to operate, a computer.  Fair enough, he is computer illiterate and she helps him out because he cannot do it.  That makes sense.
  2. The man is on the road so often, as with a truck driver, or his work is so intense, demanding of his time or so fatiguing that she again simply helps him out by communicating instead of him.  That is easily understood.
  3. The woman’s work involves computers and she is far more comfortable than him, so she does it because she is just better at it. Perhaps her schedule is far more flexible also, in her career, so once again she pitches in and this also is easy to understand her involvement is one of simple convenience and ease.

While all of these are possible reasons, and they do come up, I have come to learn these reasons and explanations are actually the exception.  In fact, they are the rare exception.   While speaking to or emailing with these women who deal indirectly with Peyronie’s disease I have learned these women are only taking over because the man with the problem is so devastated by his bent penis, by his penis that has become smaller, or because of  Peyronie’s disease impotence that he refuses to engage in anything related to his Peyronie's problem.  He often will not talk to her about his problem, and will refuse to discuss starting or following a Peyronies treatment plan.

So deep and intense is his withdrawal from a problem he feels so shamed and humiliated, that he is often is not even interested in learning how to help himself.  Thus, it is his mate who will step forward to help in whatever way she can.  This, of course, exposes her to tirades of anger, bitter refusals, endless arguments and frequent rejections that circle around his idea that she does not leave him alone, that she is bothering him, that she does not understand, that she doesn’t know what she is doing, and endless tactics of self-sabotage and self-hatred.   I hear these things often, and I must admit I was guilty of many of these tactics myself when I was at the depth of my despair with my Peyronies.

Peyronie’s Disease Treatment Forum

Why do I now mention all this on the woman’s side of the Peyronie’s Disease Treatment Forum?   All of this background information and insight is mentioned here, so that any woman reading this will know she is not alone.  She will know she is not genuinely as much at fault as he claims she is.  That she will feel empowered to know she is doing what any good person does when the person she loves is in trouble; she pitches in, she helps in whatever way she can, and she forgives him for being a jerk because she understands he is greatly disturbed by the trouble he is in.  She stands by him as best she can, because it is the right thing to do, because her love for him makes her strong to do more than she thought she could do.  And, having read this, perhaps she will feel better and her burden will be a little lighter.

There is much more that can be said about this complex and destructive way that Peyronie’s disease reduces his interest in intimacy.  This takes up a large part of the second PD book that I wrote, “Peyronie’s Disease & Sex.”

Please accept my invitation to comment on this post, and to ask questions about the way that Peyronie’s disease influences men in strange and powerful ways that are often not pleasant.  I stand ready to assist any woman who lives with Peyronie’s disease.

Peyronie’s disease treatment with Scar-X homeopathy

Homeopathic Scar-X used for Peyronie's disease treatment

Scar-X is a great Peyronie’s disease treatment that just happens to be a Peyronie's Scar-X homeopathy therapy.  This is a unique homeopathic product that was put together exclusively for Peyronie’s Disease Institute by a gifted young homeopath from California.  Homeopathy is not a nutritional therapy; it is a type of energy medicine. It is about 175 years old and is gaining rapidly in popularity in the U.S., although it is used far more extensively in most other parts of the world.

Let me tell you how you can know for sure that homeopathy is gaining respect and use within the traditional medical community.  Recently, I attended a medical meeting at a famous teaching hospital in my area, during which the benefits of homeopathy were explained.  There were about 500-600 MDs in attendance.  We all were urged to consider using homeopathy in a case if standard prescription drugs were ineffective.

In addition there is yet another, even stronger, proof that homeopathy is gaining tremendous medical acceptance and use.  Go to your favorite drug store, and ask the pharmacist for some over-the-counter cold relief remedies.  In this same area of the drug store I guarantee you will find several – many – homeopathic preparations.  However, you will not know they are homeopathic preparations  because the DRUG store and the DRUG companies do not want you to know you are taking a non-drug preparation. Now they sell it to you, but it is presented as though it was just another drug.  Homeopathy will be packaged and presented as though it was just another over-the-counter medication, although it is not.  You will also find more homeopathic remedies in the over-the-counter section that are used for menstrual cramps, headaches, sore throat, hemorrhoids, fever, and many other common complaints.

Yes, homeopathy has really gained a large following within the mainstream medical community, they just don’t want to make a lot of fuss about it because they have ridiculed homeopathy for so many years it the past, saying it was worthless and quackery. The medical establishment is not good at admitting it was wrong.

Different way to use Scar-X

Scar-X is a very popular and low cost homeopathic remedy that can be a part of your Peyronie’s disease treatment.  If you follow the directions that are provided with each order you will be taking it in a very effective way.

However, there is a variation for taking Scar-X, and any other homeopathic preparation that you may have, that adds to its effectiveness.  I used this method when I was treating, and cured, my own Peyronie’s disease.   Here is another way to take a liquid homeopathic formula, rather than simply squirting it under your tongue and holding it there for 30 seconds:

1.      Place about 12 ounces of water in a glass, or find a water bottle of 12-16 ounces.  The exact amount of water is not that critical.

2.      Place 2-10 drops of Scar-X in the water, and agitate and stir well.

3.      Sip this water all day long, following the restrictions about not having any strong taste or recent food or liquid in your mouth for 15 minutes before or after you do take the water/Scar-X combination.

4.      It should take you perhaps all day long to finish the water/Scar-X combination.  So, in effect, it will take you all day long to consume the 2-10 drops of the homeopathic formula that you started put into the  glass of water.   The idea is that since homeopathy is all about extreme dilutions of substances down to the point that they are only present as energy when you take them, this further reduction and dilution of the Scar-X will make it more effective for you.

So there you have a different way of taking Scar-X that might be more effective than the other method.  Try it and let me know what you think.  Follow all of the other rules about taking the homeopathic formula that you were given when you received your order.

If you are not using Scar-X, you should look into it to increase your chance for Peyronie's treatment success.

Let me know if you have comments or questions about this post.  Just leave your comments in the reply box, below, and thank you. TRH

Peyronie’s Disease and How to Avoid Infidelity

Marital stress caused by Peyronie's disease

If having Peyronie’s disease was not stressful enough on a relationship, it has been reported by The New York Times that more men and women than ever are cheating on each other.

This blog article does not intend to plant the seeds of anxiety, doubt, or suspicion about an unfaithful mate, because these thoughts have likely occurred within the first hour for any every man who learns his curved penis is caused by Peyronies disease.  This blog post is offered to address that common fear and anxiety, and offer advice for what you can do to increase your ability to keep your relationship solid and strong.  So read on, since this is additional reason for men with a bent penis to be interested in improving their romantic talents and sexual skills.    In a recent newspaper article, The New York Times commented that University of Washington researchers discovered more men and women are cheating today than in the past.  What is termed the lifetime rate of infidelity is greater for both sexes; for men over 60 infidelity is now at 28 percent, up from 21 percent. The frequency of infidelity has tripled for women, with infidelity now at 15 percent.

Apparently it is the temptation offered by the modern age, in the form of cell phones, e-mail communication and instant text messaging that allow people, including women who work at home, to create intimate relationships with those who are not their traditional partners.   Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love and the Sensual Years, believes women are more inclined to wander and experiment with others is because of growing independence and ease of maintaining private communication with different people.  Dr. Schwartz notes that if a person was sexually active while single or unattached, that person is more likely to be dissatisfied and roam if their current relationship develops problems.

“If things aren’t great, they are more open to reliving some of the sexual passion and high points of their single days,” Schwartz says.

At what point in a relationship do things become not great?  “[People] get bored or feel like, ‘Is this all there is?’ ” Schwartz says. “[The reasons] for men and women are the same: They need reassurance and they’re feeling unappreciated.”   So, notice here that Dr. Schwartz is not replying that a woman becomes unfaithful because she is not receiving adequate sexual activity, or that she is unhappy with the number of orgasms or the size of his penis.  This is an extremely important point.  It has been my observation that men with Peyronie’s disease develop relationship problems more because of how they behave on the emotional relationship or social level, than on the sexual physical level.

Dissatisfaction in a romantic relationship usually revolves around something any man with Peyronie’s disease can always provide, in spite of a bent penis – he can always offer her respect, reassurance and appreciation.  Keep in mind that the real dissatisfaction in a romantic relationship is often more about emotional issues than physical issues.  Even when the woman expresses sexual dissatisfaction with her mate, they come to the surface only because of deeper and larger problems that are emotional in nature.  Men tend to think of a relationship more so from the purely physical aspect, while women tend to think of a relationship more so from the purely emotional aspect.  This is the wonderful, and problematic, difference between the sexes.

A man with the bent penis of Peyronie’s disease thinks he has a problem in his relationship because of the physical problems with sex.  This is often not true.  A man would think this way, while a woman doe not.  For a woman the real issues of highest importance are the critical personal human issues of respect, reassurance, appreciation, and an emotional bond that is strong and frequently satisfied.  I have seen that if a woman is emotionally satisfied, she is far, far more likely to willingly accept her mates reduced physical limitations.

I spend a great amount of time discussing all phases and aspects of this exact issue that arises in Peyronie’s disease between a man and a woman in my book, “Peyronie’s Disease & Sex.”  This book has saved many marriages and relationships over the years.  I urge you to read it if you are having relationship problems because of your Peyronies.

Peyronie’s disease and romance

On a daily basis, with so many interferences and stresses that separate a couple, romance is difficult to maintain.  However, there many easy and fun things any man with Peyronie’s disease can do, no matter how badly his penis curvature interferes with usual sexual activity.   These are five positive and pleasant steps you can take, even if you cannot engage in intercourse, that will assist you greatly to keep her interested and close to you:

1. Spend more time together. A good relationship requires time together and alone with that special person.  Give her the attention she craves.  Go out with her to do things that you previously avoided.  Go grocery shopping together.  Tag along when she does a few errands, or to her work functions you usually avoid. Help her with some chores that you can share together.  Be a friend to her in ways that you did not see before.  Dr. Schwartz advises, “You can’t do it all, but even if you’re there sometimes, it will remind her that she’s part of a great couple instead of an individual out there on her own.

2. Keep your relationship fresh and fun. See where you have fallen into a level of dullness in your lives, and make some changes.  While you might simply see a schedule, she might see a rut.  Eating at the same restaurant, doing the same things each evening after work, being far too predictable, or not adding variety to your lives together can take the edge off a relationship.  Even sex can become part of that predictable quality that becomes less fun and boring.  Suggest a “nooner,” then meet her back at the apartment for lunch in bed. “Rent an erotic movie, go shopping for a sex toy, buy her a sexy teddy,” Schwartz suggests. “Make her believe no one could be as romantic or as much fun as you are.”  With Peyronie’s disease putting limits on your sexual activity, it is important that you compensate by improving those elements of your personal and romantic relationship that can be improved, no matter how far your penis is curved.

3. Deal with all that sudden anger. Men with Peyronie’s disease are notorious for their anger.  I will write a blog post about this problem soon, but for now let’s just agree that your temper lately has gotten out of control far too often and far too extreme.  Do not use anger as a way to avoid the problems of Peyronie’s disease.  Take the issues and problems you now face, and discuss them directly with her because she needs to know what is going on with you – your fears, your embarrassment, your feelings about your masculinity, your insecurity about your relationship with her, all of it.  Many men cannot talk about these things, so they explode.  ”Anger is like a termite—you don’t see it, but it’s eating the walls and the structure of the house you’re living in,” Dr. Schwartz says. “The house is the relationship, and if you don’t handle it, the termites will ultimately destroy that bond which keeps someone loyal.”   You did not ask to have Peyronie’s disease, but it is your decision and your ultimate fault if you allow your anger to erode your relationship.

4. Learn how to use time. Dr. Schwartz advises that time can be used to diffuse and calm a tense situation.  “What you don’t want to do is have a fight when you’re mad. Say, ‘Look, you’re upset, I’m upset, let’s meet tomorrow at breakfast and talk about this. I’m not in the best shape to deal with it right now.’ ” Talk about your problems, sure, but only do so when you are levelheaded and in control of yourself.  If you are not, the chance is good that you will only make things worse.  Use time to work in your favor to solve your relationship problems.

5.  Create, or take advantage of, romantic moments. Even though it can be extremely corny and uncomfortable for a man, let’s just assume that all women really enjoy those Hallmark moments:  sitting by the fireplace, reading a book together, washing her hair or doing her nails, sending her an email that tells her in simple language how much you love her, or just holding hands while you walk.  Women think of these small things as great foreplay, and that is why they appreciate it when a man holds open a door, or takes care of her in small but important ways.  Dr. Schwartz says, “The less [of these moments] you have, the more she’s thinking how it used to be, or how nice it would be to have a man offering to fly her to a cabin in the woods.”  Make sure you are the one she is fantasizing about, by creating foreplay with simple acts of consideration, reassurance that you value her, and appreciation for who she is and what she does.   “You don’t have to do it all the time, but if you can’t remember the last time you did any of this, it’s way too long,” Schwartz says.

Even if you do not have Peyronie’s disease, these things will improve and deepen your relationship.  But if you have Peyronie’s disease these things become all the more important.  You must do all that you can to support and strengthen your relationship with her, now that one element of your physical ability to satisfy her is diminished.

Peyronie’s disease does not destroy a relationship; it is allowed to die when the man who has PD does not understand what motivates his woman.  Wise up.