Peyronie’s disease caused my divorce and makes me ashamed to get intimate; who can I go to for help?

I have had Peyronies for two years now. I live in Charlotte NC and being in the middle of the Bible belt have been ashamed and have not sought treatment for this reason.  It has been a major contributor to my recent divorce.  I am now trying to date but again am ashamed to get intimate could you refer me to doctor in Charlotte NC as I am now ready to address this.

Sincerely

Marc

 

Greetings Marc,

Sorry to hear of your Peyronie's disease and how it affected your marriage.

I do not know of anyone in the  Charlotte area in whom I have confidence.   Sorry.   However, there is another issue that is perhaps even greater than your Peyronie's disease, and that is your attitude about yourself and your Peyronie's disease.

Whatever doctor you eventually decide to consult for your health problem, if he is like 99% of those I hear about he will likely rush into the room, do a very brief history and examination, confirm your suspicion of having PD, tell you there is not much he can do and he will suggest that you come back in six months to see if you have gotten bad enough to do Peyronies surgery on you.  Unless you are the world's luckiest guy, he will not actually talk to you in any meaningful way or discuss your personal situation.  That is just how it is in the real world of medical practice these days.

You should get a diagnosis and make sure you know what your problem is exactly.  After that, you should carefully consider your treatment options.   You can use the standard drugs and surgery, or you can use Alternative Medicine to see if you can avoid the medical approach.   One of the things about the inevitable use of Peyronie's surgery is that there is always at least an inch or two lost of length and the possibility of continued penis curvature, possibility of erectile dysfunction as a result of surgery, to say noting of the external scars that are visible from surgery.  All of these can contribute to the shame and embarrassment you feel now.   Do not think that just because you submit to medical care that your days of reduced penile function and altered penile appearance are over; far from it.   Some men's  PD problems are worse after surgery than before it.   This is why PDI suggests more conservative measures that can reduce your penile curvature without risk of surgery and drugs. 

Regardless of what route you decide to take you must improve your self-opinion and how you view life as someone with Peyronies.  This is a huge subject and something that I cannot undertake in a response to the Q/Q section.   I suggest that you get my book "Peyronie's Disease and Sex" because it will help you in all the ways that I mention and it will offer useful advice about getting back into the dating pool again.   TRH   

Dr.Herazy

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