Stressful emotions and Peyronie's disease
Peyronie’s Disease Institute has for many years written about the various emotional issues closely associated with the bent penis disease.
Even though Peyronie’s disease is said by some to occur in 3-9% of all men, surprisingly very little is known regarding the psychological or emotional disruptions to the sexual well-being of those afflicted with this problem. In a 2008 research project, reported in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, 2008;5:2179-2184, Smith JF, Walsh TJ, Conti SL, Turek P, and Lue T, attempted to determine the source of emotional and relationship problems in Peyronie’s disease. In addition, this study attempted to identify risk factors associated with psychosocial difficulties in men with PD.
Of 245 men in this study, the mean age was 54.4 years, ranging from 19.4 years to 75.6 years; of these men 62% were married, and 59% presented within 2 years of disease onset. The overall prevalence of emotional and relationship problems that were attributable to Peyronie’s disease was 81% of the married men, and 54% of the unmarried men. Among those men who reported to experience relationship problems, emotional problems were noted in 93%.Loss of penile length and inability to have intercourse were strongly identified as the cause of a very high percent of emotional problems reported in this study.
Peyronie’s disease has physical and emotional aspects
Studies like the one mentioned above prove what every couple who deals with Peyronie’s disease knows all too well: living with PD is not easy and it puts a lot of stress on any marriage or relationship.
It is obvious to any Peyronie’s disease couple who must daily deal with the reality of this problem, that Peyronie’s disease can quickly and easily become a source of great mental and emotional stress to both partners. Having Peyronie’s disease should not be seen as a reflection of a man’s self-worth, masculinity, or virility. In all cases of Peyronie’s disease in which a loving couple is involved, improved communication skills make a great difference in how the stress is managed and how the couple survives on a daily basis.
If Peyronie’s disease advances it sometimes causes occasional or permanent erectile dysfunction. This inability to achieve an erection strong enough to allow for penetration is often seen as a sign of diminished masculinity by the man, and diminished sexual desire by the woman. It is most important that every man with Peyronie’s disease takes special effort to reassurance his sexual partner that this limit of sexual function is purely physical and not a refection of reduced interest and desire. Conversely, every woman who is involved with a man with Peyronie’s disease should assure him that his physical limit is not a true or valid reflection of her respect, love, or desire for him.
For additional insight into dealing with the complex emotional issues between loving partners, please review “Peyronie’s Disease and Sex” at Peyronie’s Disease and Sex. Since this topic is so large and complex, referring to the more detailed information of this book would be most helpful to couples who are experiencing sex problems as a result of the Peyronie's curved penis.
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The last 2 men i have dated have had this issue of a curved penis caused by Peyronie’s disease. It honestly was so bad i had to break it off with one and then dating another one with this issue was just as bad.
Anyone who says it is not painful to a woman to have sex with a man who has an extreme Peyronie’s disease curve is WRONG. It cause vaginal tearing and major issues for me… sometimes even infections. My dr advised me to stop having sex with this last man because of what his Peyronie’s disease curved penis was doing to my body. It was causing me HUGE amounts of pain. honestly both these men are selfish and neither of them would listen to me when i told them it hurt. I tried to have patience and be understanding and research this topic. Tried to bring it up to them to get help, but neither of them would admit to having issues and said they were just Made like that.
I feel for any woman that has to deal with a man with Peyronie’s disease who will not admit or be nice during sexual intercourse.
Greetings Amy,
Yes, men can be real jerks, especially when it comes to things related to Peyronie’s disease, sex and the appearance and condition of their penis. But, then again, so can some women be jerks. We can all be guilty of inconsideration and selfishness. During stressful times it is important to offer more tolerance and patience for people going through a crisis. If a woman says she is having pain and distress during intercourse the wise and loving partner will not doubt her, but will do all he can to avoid inflicting pain and danger to her. To persist with painful sexual activity is being a thoughtless and immature brute.
Extreme penile curvature will cause distress to almost all women, but some women are more sensitive than others because of their unique anatomical shapes and variations; just like the ear or the hand, the vagina can vary in size and shape from woman to woman. A few women I have communicated with seem to have a great ability to tolerate stretching of the vaginal wall, even to the point of allowing penetration of a 80-90 degree bent penis; a few women I have communicated with have great pain when attempting to accept penetration of a 10 degree bent penis. Everyone is different and we must work with what we have.
“Peyronie’s Disease and Sex” is a book I wrote that takes up in great detail how a couple can overcome sexual difficulties commonly encountered when dealing with a bent penis. Please go to the website for more information about this book, http://peyronies-disease-help.com/pdi-product/peyronies-disease-sex/
Just because the penis is bent and Peyronie’s disease has given rise to sexual problems, does not mean that some or all of these problems cannot be eliminated or at least improved. I have counseled hundreds of couples who could not engage in sexual intercourse because of Peyronie’s disease. After using ideas found in my book most of them had from small to great improvement of their sexual ability, and many were able to return to full penetration. It can be done in many, but certainly not all, cases. TRH