Peyronie’s Syndrome is more than a curved penis

Peyronie's disease defies classification

Technically, Peyronie’s syndrome is not the correct way to refer to Peyronie’s disease.  Actually, calling it Peyronie’s disease is not correct, either, but more on that later.

First, the term Peyronies syndrome.   A syndrome refers to a group of several essential and clearly recognizable clinical signs, symptoms and characteristics of a health problem that often occur in association or together.  In the situation in which a syndrome occurs, the presence of one feature, sign or symptom would alert a doctor to the possibility a particular syndrome was present, so he/she would automatically look for other features, signs and symptoms that normally occur with it.  If those additional findings are detected, then  a diagnosis of that syndrome could be made.

Peyronie’s syndrome is not a valid term because the characteristic Peyronies symptoms are actually too few, and they do not usually form a tightly bound set of features that suggest this particular health problem. The few symptoms and signs associated with PD are actually vague by usual medical standards. Since there are typically only three such standard features or clues associated with Peyronie’s disease  (penis pain, distorted or curved penis, and the common Peyronie’s plaque or scar), this set of presenting characteristics is not large enough or strongly suggestive of the condition, hence syndrome is not a good term to use.

Peyronie’s syndrome is not a disease, either

Then we come to the term Peyronie’s disease, which is not all that accurate either.  A disease refers to any condition that causes extreme pain, significant organ or system dysfunction, social problems, and even death, and is usually acquired through direct or indirect transmission or communication from one person to another.  Of course, there are many definitions and ways of looking at what constitutes a disease, but that is generally acceptable in most cases.

Since Peyronie’s disease seldom causes extreme pain, and sometimes no pain at all, it does not fulfill that requirement.   Since the genitourinary system of which the penis is only a part continues to function, and the penis continues to carry urine and oftentimes is still capable to function sexually, it does not fulfill the requirement of loss of function.  While having a bent penis plays havoc with the man who has it, and the woman or women he is sexually active, it does not affect society as a whole, the way actual diseases like the flu or measles, syphilis, tuberculosis or alcoholism do.  Peyronie’s disease is not fatal, except to some couple’s sex life, so it also does not fulfill that part of the requirement.  And lastly, this problem is not communicated or transmitted from one person to the next; you cannot catch Peyronies.

When referring to Peyronie’s disease it is more accurate and fair to use other terms like “condition,” or the more descriptive terms that follow in this list.  These are more clinically accurate names that have been collected and were taken from the PDI website:

  1. Indurato penis plastica
  2. Chronic cavernositis
  3. Fibrous sclerosis of the penis
  4. Fibrous cavernositis
  5. Fibrous plaques of the penis
  6. Penile fibrosis
  7. Penile fibromatosis
  8. Penile induration

This list of descriptive terms was taken from the PDI website where the basics of Peyronie’s disease are discussed at length.  If you wish to learn more about this condition, called Peyronie’s disease, please review this additional information.  But whatever you do, do not call it Peyronie’s syndrome, OK?

Peyronie’s Disease and How to Avoid Infidelity

Marital stress caused by Peyronie's disease

If having Peyronie’s disease was not stressful enough on a relationship, it has been reported by The New York Times that more men and women than ever are cheating on each other.

This blog article does not intend to plant the seeds of anxiety, doubt, or suspicion about an unfaithful mate, because these thoughts have likely occurred within the first hour for any every man who learns his curved penis is caused by Peyronies disease.  This blog post is offered to address that common fear and anxiety, and offer advice for what you can do to increase your ability to keep your relationship solid and strong.  So read on, since this is additional reason for men with a bent penis to be interested in improving their romantic talents and sexual skills.    In a recent newspaper article, The New York Times commented that University of Washington researchers discovered more men and women are cheating today than in the past.  What is termed the lifetime rate of infidelity is greater for both sexes; for men over 60 infidelity is now at 28 percent, up from 21 percent. The frequency of infidelity has tripled for women, with infidelity now at 15 percent.

Apparently it is the temptation offered by the modern age, in the form of cell phones, e-mail communication and instant text messaging that allow people, including women who work at home, to create intimate relationships with those who are not their traditional partners.   Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Prime: Adventures and Advice on Sex, Love and the Sensual Years, believes women are more inclined to wander and experiment with others is because of growing independence and ease of maintaining private communication with different people.  Dr. Schwartz notes that if a person was sexually active while single or unattached, that person is more likely to be dissatisfied and roam if their current relationship develops problems.

“If things aren’t great, they are more open to reliving some of the sexual passion and high points of their single days,” Schwartz says.

At what point in a relationship do things become not great?  “[People] get bored or feel like, ‘Is this all there is?’ ” Schwartz says. “[The reasons] for men and women are the same: They need reassurance and they’re feeling unappreciated.”   So, notice here that Dr. Schwartz is not replying that a woman becomes unfaithful because she is not receiving adequate sexual activity, or that she is unhappy with the number of orgasms or the size of his penis.  This is an extremely important point.  It has been my observation that men with Peyronie’s disease develop relationship problems more because of how they behave on the emotional relationship or social level, than on the sexual physical level.

Dissatisfaction in a romantic relationship usually revolves around something any man with Peyronie’s disease can always provide, in spite of a bent penis – he can always offer her respect, reassurance and appreciation.  Keep in mind that the real dissatisfaction in a romantic relationship is often more about emotional issues than physical issues.  Even when the woman expresses sexual dissatisfaction with her mate, they come to the surface only because of deeper and larger problems that are emotional in nature.  Men tend to think of a relationship more so from the purely physical aspect, while women tend to think of a relationship more so from the purely emotional aspect.  This is the wonderful, and problematic, difference between the sexes.

A man with the bent penis of Peyronie’s disease thinks he has a problem in his relationship because of the physical problems with sex.  This is often not true.  A man would think this way, while a woman doe not.  For a woman the real issues of highest importance are the critical personal human issues of respect, reassurance, appreciation, and an emotional bond that is strong and frequently satisfied.  I have seen that if a woman is emotionally satisfied, she is far, far more likely to willingly accept her mates reduced physical limitations.

I spend a great amount of time discussing all phases and aspects of this exact issue that arises in Peyronie’s disease between a man and a woman in my book, “Peyronie’s Disease & Sex.”  This book has saved many marriages and relationships over the years.  I urge you to read it if you are having relationship problems because of your Peyronies.

Peyronie’s disease and romance

On a daily basis, with so many interferences and stresses that separate a couple, romance is difficult to maintain.  However, there many easy and fun things any man with Peyronie’s disease can do, no matter how badly his penis curvature interferes with usual sexual activity.   These are five positive and pleasant steps you can take, even if you cannot engage in intercourse, that will assist you greatly to keep her interested and close to you:

1. Spend more time together. A good relationship requires time together and alone with that special person.  Give her the attention she craves.  Go out with her to do things that you previously avoided.  Go grocery shopping together.  Tag along when she does a few errands, or to her work functions you usually avoid. Help her with some chores that you can share together.  Be a friend to her in ways that you did not see before.  Dr. Schwartz advises, “You can’t do it all, but even if you’re there sometimes, it will remind her that she’s part of a great couple instead of an individual out there on her own.

2. Keep your relationship fresh and fun. See where you have fallen into a level of dullness in your lives, and make some changes.  While you might simply see a schedule, she might see a rut.  Eating at the same restaurant, doing the same things each evening after work, being far too predictable, or not adding variety to your lives together can take the edge off a relationship.  Even sex can become part of that predictable quality that becomes less fun and boring.  Suggest a “nooner,” then meet her back at the apartment for lunch in bed. “Rent an erotic movie, go shopping for a sex toy, buy her a sexy teddy,” Schwartz suggests. “Make her believe no one could be as romantic or as much fun as you are.”  With Peyronie’s disease putting limits on your sexual activity, it is important that you compensate by improving those elements of your personal and romantic relationship that can be improved, no matter how far your penis is curved.

3. Deal with all that sudden anger. Men with Peyronie’s disease are notorious for their anger.  I will write a blog post about this problem soon, but for now let’s just agree that your temper lately has gotten out of control far too often and far too extreme.  Do not use anger as a way to avoid the problems of Peyronie’s disease.  Take the issues and problems you now face, and discuss them directly with her because she needs to know what is going on with you – your fears, your embarrassment, your feelings about your masculinity, your insecurity about your relationship with her, all of it.  Many men cannot talk about these things, so they explode.  ”Anger is like a termite—you don’t see it, but it’s eating the walls and the structure of the house you’re living in,” Dr. Schwartz says. “The house is the relationship, and if you don’t handle it, the termites will ultimately destroy that bond which keeps someone loyal.”   You did not ask to have Peyronie’s disease, but it is your decision and your ultimate fault if you allow your anger to erode your relationship.

4. Learn how to use time. Dr. Schwartz advises that time can be used to diffuse and calm a tense situation.  “What you don’t want to do is have a fight when you’re mad. Say, ‘Look, you’re upset, I’m upset, let’s meet tomorrow at breakfast and talk about this. I’m not in the best shape to deal with it right now.’ ” Talk about your problems, sure, but only do so when you are levelheaded and in control of yourself.  If you are not, the chance is good that you will only make things worse.  Use time to work in your favor to solve your relationship problems.

5.  Create, or take advantage of, romantic moments. Even though it can be extremely corny and uncomfortable for a man, let’s just assume that all women really enjoy those Hallmark moments:  sitting by the fireplace, reading a book together, washing her hair or doing her nails, sending her an email that tells her in simple language how much you love her, or just holding hands while you walk.  Women think of these small things as great foreplay, and that is why they appreciate it when a man holds open a door, or takes care of her in small but important ways.  Dr. Schwartz says, “The less [of these moments] you have, the more she’s thinking how it used to be, or how nice it would be to have a man offering to fly her to a cabin in the woods.”  Make sure you are the one she is fantasizing about, by creating foreplay with simple acts of consideration, reassurance that you value her, and appreciation for who she is and what she does.   “You don’t have to do it all the time, but if you can’t remember the last time you did any of this, it’s way too long,” Schwartz says.

Even if you do not have Peyronie’s disease, these things will improve and deepen your relationship.  But if you have Peyronie’s disease these things become all the more important.  You must do all that you can to support and strengthen your relationship with her, now that one element of your physical ability to satisfy her is diminished.

Peyronie’s disease does not destroy a relationship; it is allowed to die when the man who has PD does not understand what motivates his woman.  Wise up.

Peyronie’s Disease Treatment Success Stories – Big and Small

Men do not like to discuss their Peyronie’s disease condition

Each day I run into many examples of reluctance to talk about their Peyronies disease. A woman will tell me her husband has shut her out completely about his PD, and just clams up and walks away when she asks him about his Peyronies. I often write notes on the PDI order forms that go out to men when they receive their shipment of Peyronie’s treatment supplies; I ask, “Please write me a note and tell me how it is going for you.” I rarely get a reply, even when I learn later things are going great. Men send me an email, asking a question about their Peyronies treatment or something about their penis problem. In that email many of these men will often admit that it has taken them a few months to get the nerve to write to me.

It seems that there is something in most men that they just do not like to address the problem of Peyronie’s disease – almost like by not discussing it, it does not exist. Whatever the reason, I hope that men will some how feel more comfortable using this blog to discuss their small and large successes using the Peyronies treatment ideas found on the PDI website. I trust that men will share the good news of reducing and eliminating pain in the penis or curvature, eliminating or reducing Peyronies plaque or scar material, regaining lost length, and improving or restoring sexual function.

Please take a moment to tell others about the areas where you have had success and the things that have improved since you have begun using the Alternative Medicine treatment concepts to increase your ability to heal your Peyronie's disease.

Peyronie’s Disease Treatment: Early Changes to Look For

Early signs of response to Peyronie's treatment

This post is about an interesting question I am asked from time to time about Peyronie’s disease treatment.  I thought it might be of interest to you.  The question is asked something like this, “When people finally get some positive changes in their Peyronie’s disease, how does it usually show up?  What usually happens first?  I want to know what I can expect, although I know we are all different.”

Well, usually – not always – as a man continues with a sufficiently large and aggressively applied Peyronie’s disease treatment plan from PDI, he will notice at first some small and TEMPORARY changes in the size and density of his scar.  The temporary nature of the change does not last long.  As treatment continues the changes and improvement become permanent.  Usually the scar itself will change before there is a noticeable change in the penis curvature or his ability to develop an erection.  This scar change will take place maybe during months 2-6 of the treatment cycle, although I have worked with men who see changes in the scar after just a few weeks of a PDI plan.  This fast response is the exception and not the rule, so do not plan on that kind of response although it does happen.

The initial and temporary improvement in the Peyronies plaque or scar will not last very long, maybe just a few days or so, and then it will often go back to how it was before – maybe even worse.  I wish I could say why this happens – it just does. Soon a pattern will develop in which there is improvement, regression, improvement, regression, back and forth, etc.  What happens over time is that you will notice that the amount of improvement will be greater than the regression, and the improvement will last longer than the regression.  You will likely see the pattern shifting slowly in favor of improvement – it will last longer and it will be greater than the regression.  Just like the stock market – it goes up and it goes down – but the general trend and pattern is that it slowly comes gets better.  This is how I have seen most every case of Peyronie’s disease improve.

Just as the Peyronie’s plaque changes, a little while later it is common to see a change in the curvature. The initial change in the penis curvature is not always improvement, however.  My curve worsened just after my scar showed some real strong progress for the first time.  I kept in mind that the Peyronies plaque was getting better, so I did not let the change in the curve upset me.  I kept working to reduce the scars I had and in time the curve I had also eventually improved.

Peyronie’s plaque and pick-up-sticks

Ever play “pick-up-sticks” as a kid?   With the complex interplay of sticks lying across each other, removing one stick makes three or four other sticks shift a bit.  I think the same happens in Peyronie’s disease.

How many plaques or scars do you have?  If more than one, then the dynamics are made even more complicated.  If you have only one scar (kind of unusual) then you have one scar that could be influencing 2-3-4 different planes of connective tissue within the corpora cavernosa of the penis that it is attached to.  It is not difficult to understand that if a part of a scar is changing, or one of four scars is disappearing, it could cause alteration of the tensions and angles of pull – as the scar is INCREASING or DECREASING in size – that could cause a change in the curve – to make it INITIALLY better or worse.  So in this sense, an increase in your curve is only seen as a bad thing if you know FOR A FACT that your scar(s) are increasing in size, shape or density. Over time, as the plaque continues to soften and reduce in size, and as the internal pull and tension created by these plaque begins to normalize, the curve should begin to straighten.  Continue monitoring yourself as you work aggressively, and you should see this positive pattern of recovery play out for you.

A worsening of the curve is acceptable if the plaque is improving.  As far as treating your condition and monitoring progress, the condition of the Peyronie’s plaque is far more important to monitor than a curved penis; plaque changes size, shape and density characteristics, and even seem to move, and so the plaque or scar tissue exerts control over the curve; the curved penis is just a reflection of plaque activity – good or bad.  A smaller plaque can create a larger curve if it is in the wrong place or is pulling or pushing in some strange way. It might make you feel sick to see your curve get worse, but ignore the curve and keep checking the condition of the Peyronie’s disease  plaque.  How do you check your plaque?  Go to review information about  my book, at Peyronie’s Disease Handbook

Whenever someone sends me an email reporting that he is seeing improvement in his plaque or bent penis, I warn him that it will not initially last very long and that his problem will surely return for a short while.  I can almost guarantee this pattern.  Come to expect it; count on it.  It is just the way it goes, so do not be discouraged or disappointed when it happens.  In a short time, you will see the pattern develop that will tell you that good things are finally happening.  Just stay with it.

How long it takes for the improvement to become permanent is also variable (just like everything about Peyronie’s disease).  Once you get your plan fine-tuned and working well for you, most of the time it takes 6-12 months or more for the progress to level off and become as good as it is going to be.  That does not mean that in 6-12 months or so you will be cured or completely well.  It just means you will be as good as you are going to be, in spite of your best effort.

Peyronie’s Disease Institute Manual Penis Stretching Method for Penile Curvature

Curved penis manual stretching method

A few days ago a man asked me about Peyronie's treatment using the Peyronie's Disease Institute Manual Penis Stretching Method for penile curvature.  He is one of those who has been using a Peyronie's treatment plan from PDI for a few months, with only slight success at this point, and added the stretching program to his plan in early October so he could get faster results.   He said he thinks there has been some small change in his Peyronie's plaque and curvature, but wants to do more with the stretching concept. So he described how he is doing his Peyronies stretching, and asked my advice.

What disturbed me was that, because he spends many hours a day at his computer, he said he stretches his penis curvature while working on his computer.  I advised him not to do this.  If you carefully listen and watch the penis stretching video you will see that light touch and gentle stretching are continuously emphasized throughout the video program.  It is necessary to constantly think and pay attention to what you are doing so that this is done correctly.  You must pay attention to the immediate response of the tissue to the gentle stretching that is being applied.  In order to be really effective as every man would want it to be, this kind of Peyronies treatment is not something you do while multitasking.

For successful Peyronie's treatment, and to reduce the Peyronie's disease plaque with manual stretching, you must have your mind on what you are doing.  Set some time aside a few times a day, at least 15 minutes each time, to stretch the plaque or scar material.  If you can find more time than 15 minutes, great.  Some men tell me they spend over an hour at a time while watching TV – now that is the kind of multitasking that will work in a Peyronies treatment plan.

To learn the PDI manual penis stretching method, it must be demonstrated; it does not lend itself well to written or oral instructions.  If you want to know more about this process, and see some still pictures of what this stretching Peyronies treatment looks like, and a 30 second YouTube video that shows some clips from the actual penis stretching CD, go to Peyronie's manual penis stretching

Of course, men with Peyronie's disease know about the dangers of mechanical penis stretchers, since this site has written about this many times.